Forgive Forget How about forgive-and-try-to-forget-while-fooling- yourself--making-yourself-feel-bad - When I Grow Up

Forgive Forget How about forgive-and-try-to-forget-while-fooling- yourself--making-yourself-feel-bad - When I Grow Up I love my sessions with C, a soul-searching, spiritual enlightened woman who is constantly discovering who she wants to be when she grows up! And, as someone who has already gone through a coaching-like program, she teaches me something every session. Today she said, Forgiveness release is a day-to-day process. As a former grudge-holder who is sometimes unable to honestly say, Yes, I forgive you, lets move on forget about it this really spoke to me. When you think of forgiving forgetting it seems like a quick little process. Its so easily said and so harder done! It might be easy when the thing that youre forgiving/forgetting is fairly unconsequential, but what if its not? What if the actions of your best friend ripped your heart out, and you really, truly want to forgive forget even if its years later but its tough to let your guard down? If you view this, though, as a day-to-day process, you can skip the guilt trip (Why do I still feel this way? Am I not a good person for not being able to let this go like I said?) not beat yourself up for still feeling hostile/angry/resentful of what was done. At that point you can re-evaluate your feelings see if you still want to forgive forget. If so, remember that it wont happen overnight, give yourself the breathing room you need to say Fuggedaboutit and really mean it.